Carmen Abril Ch谩vez was bracing herself to attend University of Texas at El Paso commencement without her parents by her side.
They live in Ju谩rez and haven鈥檛 been able to cross into El Paso for more than a year, due to pandemic travel restrictions.
In late March 2020, the U.S. government closed its borders to 鈥渘on-essential鈥� traffic. U.S. citizens and permanent residents can still cross back and forth, but most Mexican nationals face restrictions.
Ch谩vez鈥檚 parents have border crossing cards, and used to freely crisscross the Rio Grande. That all stopped last spring.
鈥淚 almost didn鈥檛 want to go to the commencement because for me it was pointless,鈥� the 25-year-old said. 鈥淲hy should I walk when nobody would be there?鈥�
Ch谩vez had already tempered her expectations for commencement. She graduated from UTEP in 2020, as COVID-19 cases soared and in-person ceremonies were indefinitely postponed. When the school announced it would hold celebrations for both this and last year鈥檚 classes, it was hard to work up much excitement.
Then, a week before the ceremony, Ch谩vez learned that UTEP had worked out an agreement with U.S. Customs and Border Protection (CBP), allowing parents with current travel documents to cross the border for commencement.
鈥淭o be honest, I thought it was really unrealistic. I thought that it was not going to happen,鈥� she said.
It only felt real when she learned about a from a high-level CBP official, confirming that the agency would 鈥渇acilitate鈥� parents鈥� attendance at graduation.
鈥淚 almost cried. It鈥檚 so important for our parents to be there because they鈥檙e the ones supporting us. Maybe we鈥檙e carrying the pencil and we鈥檙e writing the homework, but without their investment鈥︹�� she paused. 鈥淔amily and parents in the Latin community, they鈥檙e like our right hand.鈥�
Ch谩vez had to uninvite a couple guests she鈥檇 asked to attend when she thought her parents couldn鈥檛 make it; commencement tickets were limited.
鈥淭hey completely understood,鈥� she laughed.
Some Families Divided Celebrations Across The Rio Grande
The special CBP waiver made a huge difference for families like Ch谩vez鈥檚 鈥� but it didn鈥檛 apply to parents whose documents expired during the pandemic, or extend to other family members like grandparents and siblings.
That was challenging for 23-year-old Manuel Almaraz, who received a B.S. in Clinical Laboratory Science on Saturday.
It was hard to accept that his 80-year-old grandfather, Juan Acosta, wouldn鈥檛 be in the stands.
鈥淚 remember when I was barely starting my career at UTEP, my grandpa told me, 'I want to ask God to give me the permission to live' until he sees me graduate,鈥� Almaraz said. 鈥淪o now I feel so happy that he鈥檚 living right now. So blessed. But at the same time, I feel sad that he cannot see me in person.鈥�
Almaraz and most of his family live in Ju谩rez. He commuted across the U.S.-Mexico border every day for class. The trip involved waking up at 5:30 a.m., catching a bus to an international bridge, waiting in a long line to go through customs and then taking yet another bus to UTEP so he could be in class by 8:00 a.m.
鈥淚t鈥檚 been hard but at this moment I feel like all the effort I put in, it鈥檚 paying off,鈥� he said.
On Saturday afternoon, his house was full of beaming relatives. Almaraz laid out his graduation regalia on the bed: a gold cord for graduating with highest honors, a braided green and blue cord celebrating his achievement as a first-generation college student.
His mom, Juana Acosta, smoothed out his gown so he could look sharp for the ceremony.
鈥淚鈥檓 very, very proud of him being the first one in our family to graduate,鈥� she said. 鈥淚 saw all his sacrifices, crossing daily, all the long hours in line.鈥�
This year, Almaraz was on the frontlines of the coronavirus pandemic, working as contact tracer and volunteering for El Paso鈥檚 Department of Public Health.
He temporarily rented an apartment in El Paso, with support from UTEP, to reduce the risk of exposing his family to COVID-19. He only moved back home once he was vaccinated.
Now, Almaraz helps prepare doses at the college vaccination clinic and has convinced several reluctant classmates to get the shot.
鈥淪ince I was a healthcare intern at the hospitals, I got vaccinated first,鈥� he said. 鈥淪o I was like, 鈥業t doesn鈥檛 hurt you. It鈥檚 safe. I just felt, like, some fever but that鈥檚 it.鈥欌��
Almaraz also kept a watchful eye on the COVID travel restrictions at the border, hoping they would be lifted in time for graduation. As a student, born in the U.S., he has been able to cross freely; he hoped soon, his relatives with travel visas would have the same opportunity.
Then, in mid-April, the announcement came: the U.S. and Mexico were extending the border shutdown for another month.
鈥淪o I was like okay, my grandpa cannot see me. My cousin cannot see me,鈥� Almaraz said.
The pandemic also interfered with his mom鈥檚 hopes of attending commencement. She was waiting for an interview with the consulate 鈥� one of the last steps in her green card application process 鈥� when the pandemic hit. With that on hold, she doesn't have the documents she would need to attend the ceremony.
鈥淚 would have liked to be there with him, but he knows that all my heart and love will be there,鈥� she said.
Almaraz鈥檚 binational college career culminated in binational celebrations. The Ju谩rez contingent of his family watched a livestream of the ceremony, cheering him on from the kitchen table. His relatives living in the U.S. and his dad attended commencement in person.
鈥淢y son is graduating,鈥� Juan Almaraz said, in the moments leading up to the ceremony. 鈥淚鈥檓 feeling those goosebumps all over my body. It鈥檚 amazing.鈥�
'It Was Something That We All Needed'
For Carmen Abril Ch谩vez, commencement weekend was doubly special. Her sister Marisol graduated on Friday, as a member of the class of 2021. Ch谩vez walked the next day, finally taking the stage after a year-long wait.
鈥淏ecause of COVID, many of us lost a lot of things and people this year,鈥� she said. 鈥淲e lost maybe our jobs, maybe opportunities, maybe a loved one. It was a really tough year.鈥�
The commencement ceremony was a bright spot, a moment to celebrate 鈥渢he conclusion of so many efforts, so many sacrifices,鈥� Ch谩vez said.
A graduate of UTEP鈥檚 Medical Physics program, she decorated her cap with science-y images 鈥� a brain, a microscope, a beaker 鈥� and wrote a message in blue and gold glitter glue: It Was Rocket Science.
Seeing her parents in the audience, holding up their phones to capture 鈥渢hose three seconds that acknowledge a lot of years of studying,鈥� made the experience for her.
鈥淭his was something that was a need for my parents, to see me walk through the stadium and my name being said. It was something that we all needed," Ch谩vez said. "And for my parents to have two of their daughters walk out and have the cap and the gown, that was something they were waiting for their whole lives.鈥�
The ceremony ended with a bright explosion of fireworks. But Manuel Almaraz didn鈥檛 linger for too long.
Like he had done hundreds of times, Almaraz crossed the border back into Mexico. Instead of his usual routine 鈥� going straight home to study 鈥� he headed to the garden venue his family rented out for a party.
The room erupted when he walked in, still dressed in his cap and gown. Relatives cheered, chanted his name and tossed confetti.
Almaraz hugged his mom and grandpa first, then enjoyed a special meal: menudo, brisket, and enough vanilla cake for everyone from both sides of the border.
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